BLOG-Myths and Facts: Is it time to re-adjust our understanding and expectations? en-us Nucleus CMS v3.41 Weblog http://backend.userland.com/rss /nucleus/nucleus2.gif http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#178 Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#178 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 07:55:43 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#165
Usually when someone feels betrayed,the focus with most "couples therapists) is on the so called betrayer but if he or she has to examine why they do that(not just say I am sorry and other excuses) but the "so-vcalled betray" partner need to examine how he or she is not aying attention and THAT,is a psychological problem.Who wants to be married to someone who is naive and clueless and doesn't pay attention to the problems and unhappiness in the marriage./Let us move quickly away from the psychology of victimhood.]]> Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#165 Thu, 27 May 2010 01:37:29 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#144
I think it's important not to normalize what are actually serious character problems. For example, if a corporate executive lies and steals from the company, we don't try to give estimates of how many executives do this, in order to show that it's "normal."

Partners who cheat are willing to throw their partners and children under the bus in order to get what they want when they want it.

Lisa Moore
http://www.lisajmoore.com]]> Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#144 Sun, 2 May 2010 10:23:00 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#126 Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#126 Wed, 28 Apr 2010 08:29:44 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#108 Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#108 Wed, 21 Oct 2009 15:23:19 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#86
Insensitive parents have lousy marriages. Maybe they never really wanted to be married in the first place. I have known countless (in therapy and in my personal life) lots and lots (I know,that is not a scientific fact) of individuals who "knew" their marriage was a mistake on their wedding night, 2 weeks, 7 months, one year after the marriage that it was lousy but 18 years go by. Ask your friends who have been divorced when they knew their marriage was terrible or that they had made a mistake. You will be astounded at what you hear.]]> Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#86 Sun, 13 Sep 2009 13:28:26 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#75 Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#75 Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:13:26 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#74
In good and viable marriages,there are no surprises.

Many people wish to leave their barren and loveless marriage and this is the only way they can do that without feeling guilty. Can't we be psychological about this without becoming moralistic about it.

Marriage is not a noun;it is a verb.Two people can be legally married but care not one whit about each other and worse of all,maybe never did.

Ask many people who have been married for some time and that marriage ended in divorce:ask them when they knew their marriage was over and more than you can imagine will say on their wedding day or one week after the marriage or 5 months. And yet,18 years go by.]]> Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#74 Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:06:53 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#55 Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#55 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 08:19:39 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#53 Premartial counselling is essential as this where the couples get the guidance that helps them build a relationship that can be affair and infidelity proof.]]> Infidelity-Affairs http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=3#53 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 07:11:14 -0500