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Sherry Walter wrote: “The categorization of "victimhood" from innocent to guilty by degrees of responsibility is an alarming practice and demonstrates a complete lack of knowledge on the subject -- especially the knowledge that comes from actually being victimized.” I want to make it clear that I share your deep care and concern for victims, Sherry, and have devoted large parts of my personal and professional life to compassionately help, support, and heal those who were abused and victimized. The categorization of victimhood from innocent to responsible is an attempt to identify those who are truly victims from those who use it as an excuse. By doing that, I believe, we can better focus our efforts and resources on compassionately helping those who were violated, abused and victimized and can better help empower true victims in ways to step out of the the vicious cycle of victimhood.]]> Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#169 Thu, 17 Jun 2010 12:03:37 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#168 Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#168 Tue, 15 Jun 2010 16:19:18 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#121 Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#121 Tue, 27 Apr 2010 14:20:48 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#120 Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#120 Sat, 20 Feb 2010 20:39:48 -0600 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#115 "]]> Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#115 Tue, 29 Dec 2009 13:13:03 -0600 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#98 http://www.psychologytoday....]]> Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#98 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 09:46:27 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#93
[Moderator note: Excellent differentiation between 'true' victims and 'entitled' ones.]]]> Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#93 Wed, 23 Sep 2009 10:00:03 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#87 Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#87 Sun, 13 Sep 2009 13:33:23 -0500 http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#77
Now I am 54. I can say no oftentimes (though I still feel a need to soften it). I tend to avoid harsh people if I can because I seem to be hyper-sensitive to emotional energy, light, sound, cruelty. I am a hypnotherapist, deeply empathic, deeply intuitive. I still feel others' energy very strongly but have learned how to connect with my center and hold there.

"Victim" is but a concept. I can say that the abuse still affects me every moment I breathe. It is in the body. What healing I have done is through the body. EMDR, Hakomi,massage,celibacy, shamanic ritual. The deep imprint of "you don't deserve to live" remains. However, I have and continue to stack pleasurable, self-expressive, meaning-filled experiences on the other side. As these experiences multiply, the abuse loses some power. Trauma leaves a permanent imprint. Many must fight tooth and nails to build for themselves even a simple life. Love goes far as help.]]> Victims http://www.zurinstitute.com/blogs/index.php?blogid=5#77 Sat, 29 Aug 2009 22:17:23 -0500