Couples Therapy: Counterintuitive Approaches to Working More Effectively
Online Course Materials: Articles Audios Articles
Developed by Marty Klein, Ph.D.
General Course Description
Most people who enter couples counseling have already tried many methods of resolution. Some couples arrive in therapy with one partner dragging the other, some are on the brink of divorce, and others are trying to recover from an affair. Couples typically appear with entrenched arguments, unhealthy power dynamics, and painful histories. In this context, the therapist’s job is to help couples find clarity, productive communication, a shared vision, and a way to move forward without blaming each other for the mess they’ve developed. For some couples, clarity ultimately leads to separation. For others, it gives them a chance to function cooperatively as adults for the first time. A wide range of outcomes is possible when a couple walks into therapy, making couples counseling a complex and rich area of work.
This intermediate-level course is composed of four audios of live presentations by the engaging Dr. Marty Klein, esteemed sexuality expert, award-winning author, and veteran couples therapist. These audios cover the topics of power, conflict, agency, vocabulary, skills, modeling, and many others (transcripts available). The course also includes a text article on recovering from affairs in therapy. Transcripts are provided for the audio materials. Additional resources and references are provided for further study, but they are not part of the course.
“If you can’t have a great relationship with someone you love, who are you going to have it with?” – Dr. Marty Klein
- This course will teach the participant to
- Identify communication patterns in couples that undermine intimacy and satisfaction.
- Demonstrate healthy meta conversations during therapy.
- Organize clients’ vocabulary through the use of skillful questions.
- Conduct therapy with clients recovering from an affair.
- Identifying patterns
- Helping clients hear each other
- Defining and encouraging honesty
- Ground rules
- Life after the fight
- Helping clients understand their choices
- Shift from “what happened” to “what did you do”
- Shape clients’ vocabularies
- Power dynamics in the relationship
- Avoiding therapist unintentional participation in power dynamics
- Letting go of scripts
- Identifying skills to learn
- Regaining trust
- Deciding the future of the relationship
- Managing the public story