“I would discuss sex with my patients, but they’re just too resistant.”
“I would discuss sex with my therapist, but he/she would just die of embarrassment.”
These two assumptions lead to a common outcome: Sex doesn’t get discussed in sessions nearly enough.
When sex is discussed, therapists and patients alike tend to rely on gender stereotypes. Therapists tend to believe that monogamy is the healthiest arrangement, while sexually healthy patients struggle with that belief. Patients tend to feel guilty about their fantasies or desires, while therapists wonder how to tell if dark fantasies of coercion are dangerous, or if erotic power play can possibly be healthy.
And how about pornography? Vibrators? Swing clubs? Most therapists get absolutely no training in subjects like these. We’re left to educate ourselves through the media (sensationalized and inaccurate), personal experience (hit and miss), and the Internet (good luck).
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