Working With Infidelity: Online and Offline

Every therapist deals with affairs – sexual, emotional, internet. And although most therapists say they use a “systems approach,” it’s hard to maintain that perspective when cases are presented as involving a selfish Betrayer and a heartbroken Betrayed, or a deprived, desperate partner and an indifferent, withholding mate. Supporting the dignity and humanity of both parties gives a couple the best chance to reconcile. The idea that the Betrayer has to beg forgiveness and accept whatever relationship the Betrayed demands is a disservice to both parties, and it typically leads to client dropouts or treatment failure. In cases involving infidelity, challenging patients’ stereotypes about power, gender, and sexuality is vital – which requires insight, creativity, and self-discipline from the therapist.

This intermediate level course consists of 4 video recordings, with audio versions and transcripts available. It addresses fresh ways of looking at affairs, fidelity, and sexuality—so that they can better evaluate patients, sort out individual and relationship issues, and help people heal from the experiences of powerlessness, grief, rage, and damaged self-esteem that are common on both sides of betrayal.